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Day 95 vs 112- Happiness is … co-ordinated packing

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In order to combat the staggering out-of-dateness of my blog, I shall be writing two happiness tasks per blog. My present day task along side the next task I should be writing about. Eventually I’ll be up-to-date 🙂

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Juggle Day 95 – ” I’m happy when I’m juggling, but I feel like I’ve gone from, like, 3 balls to 10 bowling balls. But, that’s a good problem. I don’t really have a complaint about that.” ~ Kirstie Alley

My son is learning to juggle in school. I’m not sure what section of the curriculum this falls under but I know I won’t be much help with homework… co-ordination being one of the things I did not line up for on skills day.

My first experience with baseball at the age of 7 set my dislike of team sports into motion as I just couldn’t handle letting everyone else down. Against my better judgement, I did give softball a go as an adult and managed to get a black eye, a fat lip and a bloody nose from catching a fly ball with my face.

I'm much better at individual sports :)

I’m much better at individual sports 🙂

In high school, team sports were non-optional. But as with migraines, I have learned to accept my handicap as a blessing.

Soccer is the sport that taught me to appreciate a full set of teeth (because I almost lost them trying to kick the ball with my lips).

Volleyball is the sport that taught me to appreciate nerd status after the many narrowly missed concussions from spiked weaponry.

Lacrosse just made me appreciate life on earth for one more day and rugby… well, I still have nightmares about those torpedo missiles so I suppose rugby made me appreciate a good night’s sleep.

Now juggling may be an individual sport but you can see how the idea of balls in the air would put me off.

Stubbornness is a skill I got in line for twice though. I have invested in some bean bags. Two of them. One for me and one for my son… the apple of my eye.

Less is More Day 112 – “5 Rules of happiness 1. Don’t Hate 2. Don’t Worry 3. Give More 4. Expect Less 5. Live Simply.” ~ unknown

The day before my 6am flight: not being a details kindof gal, this is the day I discovered that my passport has expired, but as I was traveling within country, I dealt with this discovery by skiing. After all, I have a beibered ski day to make up for in my blog and I couldn’t live with myself if I didn’t deliver to the masses that read it (#3 Give More :))

I learned that goggles make me seasick. I learned that easiest way down a diamond run is on my back. I also learned that, like wine, I improve with age. Ok that’ a stretch but my co-ordination learning curve is improving somewhat. (#4 Expect Less)

Returning after a long day at the ski hill left me with little time for laundry, ticket printing and packing. (#2 Don’t Worry)

I ate some leftovers (#5 Live Simply), and set 3 alarms – even for a within country flight you need to be at the airport 60 minutes ahead of time which would mean I’d need to get up at 4 am (#1 Don’t Hate)

You also have to wear most of your clothing in order to avoid overweight baggage charges, so I put rule #6 into practice… Travel Lightly.

x country skiing - a simpler time

x country skiing – a simpler time

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So…it has come to this !

Once I master skiing and juggling, I’m going to do both at the same time.

Rating:  Juggle Day (5 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 2 out of 5 (flying balls scare me)
  • Twitch –without skipping a beat
  • Happy hour –  3 out of 5 (less is more when it comes to juggling as well)

Rating:  Less Is More Day (8 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 3 out of 5 (packing is bad enough; thinking about how to pack lightly is worse…excited about going though)
  • Twitch – not less – more
  • Happy hour –  5 out of 5 (more for the skiing than the packing)

What the heck does all that mean, you ask? Read Itchy Feet Explained.

Tomorrow: Be Vicarious and Fly.  Use the calendar to view my happiness tasks for each day along with a brief description of the task and why I chose it.

Day 94 vs 111- Happiness is … unmentionable flagrant frivolity

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In order to combat the staggering out-of-dateness of my blog, I shall be writing two happiness tasks per blog. My present day task along side the next task I should be writing about. Eventually I’ll be up-to-date 🙂

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Buck the Trend Day 94 – “The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.” ~ Thucydides

I did it! I dove into the waters of uncertainty and rebellion and OMG insanity. I pushed through all thought of repercussion and trepidation and just went for it. I wore mismatched under garments… and the world did not end.

It wasn’t easy though. Choosing the ill-fated pair was like trying to pick which lobster to pull from it’s cozy tank at the restaurant and sentence to dinner death. You look at them knowing they have no idea what is coming and their innocence  breaks your heart. In the end I had to pull two matching sets from the drawer and then quickly dispose of one bottom and the opposite top. What remained was a yellow bra and one purple bottom. They didn’t even have a similar fabric style 😦

As I left the house I was sure people would look at me differently, that they would ‘know’, but either they were oblivious to the topsy turvy nature of the day or there was a secret world meeting the night before where it was agreed upon that no-one would comment on my dare devil act. There’s a rumour I am not the centre of everyone’s universe so my thoughts are that no-one knew or cared. Funny thing is I didn’t really care either once I got going.

Turns out I can do all the same things with mismatched unmentionables as I can with a perfect set. Don’t get me wrong, I had moments of panic when I thought of what was going on under my clothing, but I soothed the qualms by convincing myself that purple and yellow are actually a delightful colour combo.

I might make it a monthly event.

The bear and I had matching mis-matched apparel - so embarrasing

The bear and I had matching mis-matched apparel – so embarrassing

Do It Anyway Day 111 – “Where fear is, happiness is not.” ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca

The best things in life are free – hugs, friendship, favours, manners – ahhhh bless, how sweet 🙂

The funnest things in life are not free – dining out, theartre, plane rides, corvettes, concerts, high tea at The Empress hotel, designer clothes, 3 ply toilet paper – I could go on but I have a blog to finish.

I tend toward the best things in life  because I am a loving person who values the deeper meaning of life – ahhhhh bless, how sweet 🙂 Well, that and I prefer food on my table to airplanes, but let’s face it – there’s only so much fun you can have at the grocery store even if you splurge with a kumquat.

So despite all sound economic reasoning, I bought a plane ticket and spent more on a 4 day jaunt than I normally do on groceries for a month… the madness of underwear mis-matching has a lasting effect.

Upcoming blogs will reveal the outcome of this flagrant frivolity (which is really fun to say out loud – I’ll wait while you try it). See? Some fun things are free, too. Ahhhh bless, how sweet 🙂

Fun with food and friends at the annual biscotti blitz

Fun with food and friends at the annual biscotti blitz

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So…it has come to this !

I still spent less than the some people spend on a single dining out experience.

In case anyone was wondering, I plan to match when I fly because if I get searched at the airport…

Rating:  Buck the Trend Day (7 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 2 out of 5
  • Twitch – The world turned upside down but the twitch remained
  • Happy hour –  5 out of 5 (it was fun because it was a one off)

Rating:  Do It Anyway Day (8 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 3 out of 5 (felt  little sick at the extravagance of it)
  • Twitch – nervous tic?
  • Happy hour –  5 out of 5 (felt like a rebel!)

What the heck does all that mean, you ask? Read Itchy Feet Explained.

Tomorrow: Juggle and Less is More.  Use the calendar to view my happiness tasks for each day along with a brief description of the task and why I chose it.

 

Day 79 – Happiness is … never giving up

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“The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.” ~ Erasmus

Today was supposed to be a day of learning; learning more about fitness, nutrition, & health. I went to the classes, lectures & workshops and I listened, refreshed & discovered …but that’s not what I learned.

Three years ago, on the day I knew my marriage was over, I was walking through a store and terrified of life when a man approached me to say, “I just wanted you to know how radiant you look.” Then he walked off, not looking back, and I never saw him again. He was older and didn’t strike me as a pervert. He seemed genuine and I felt … taller, glowing, confident.

Sometimes happiness feels like its on the other side of the fence…

8 months ago, on the day I knew my feelings for someone were not reciprocated, I was eating cheesecake  with a girlfriend in a restaurant when the waitress came over to tell us that a gentleman had asked to buy ‘the beautiful ladies’ a drink. He left cash and the restaurant before we knew about his gesture. He seemed to have no ulterior motive and we felt… special, decadent, glamorous.

A couple of weeks ago, on the day I knew I was not strong enough to stay but goodbye was ripping me apart, I was rushing down the street when a man stopped me to tell me I was stunning. He also walked away without a backward glance.

And a few weeks ago when I was on an annual trip with my fitness friends and feeling the sting of being single against my will, I learned that there must be something about that state of vulnerability, suppressed emotion, and disappointment that makes me incredibly attractive!

4 women, of varying ages and levels of acquaintance, made a point of letting me know how much I had changed in the last few years, how I seemed much more out-going, friendly and, ironically enough, happier. They shared some of their life and I learned that all of them had found happiness, peace, &  freedom despite tragedy, failures, & mistakes.

Perhaps it isn’t the sadness that people are seeing when I feel like I’m faking it with the world. Perhaps it is the fact that I’m trying despite it all. Perhaps what makes strangers spontaneously share their admiration is the same thing that makes people cheer for the athlete who falls but still crosses the finish line. Perhaps when I think I’m oozing despair, what is really coming through is the unwillingness to give in to it… strength, determination, life.

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So…it has come to this !

“I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” ~ Agatha Christie

Rating:  Learning  day (7 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 3 out of 5 (had a little trepidation about the day)
  • Twitch – I learned the test results showed there are no deficiencies.
  • Happy hour – 4 out of 5 (it sucks knowing life sucks, but it’s cool to know how amazing people are)

What the heck does all that mean, you ask? Read Itchy Feet Explained.

Tomorrow: New Age.  Use the calendar to view my happiness tasks for each day along with a brief description of the task and why I chose it.

Day 31-Happiness is … building a sandwich without a recipe

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“The really happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery when on a detour.”—Unknown

A detour is generally a route around an area of construction or obstacles; I may have missed the turnoff.

Taking a detour

Creating full, busy days is like building a sandwich. Each day starts and ends the same way – I wake up and I go to sleep, (if it’s a good day it happens in that order). In between those two stunning events, I stuff a variety of ingredients that generally spill out the sides. Maybe I should switch to wraps.

Today’s ingredient for happiness was a bird feeding picnic. After winning a 10k race, congratulating an inspiring woman on her accomplishments of the race, and sharing a tea/coffee visit with friends, I was ready to start searching for happiness.

A leisurely stroll to a quirky cafe, one wrap to go, a picnic table near the water in the sunshine and my laptop … a perfect recipe is born.

My plans to toss bread to the birds were thwarted, however, when a man with loud opinions of the weather, God, and the military started his solo sermon to no-one at the next picnic table over. I felt that tossing bits of food would be akin to tossing rotten tomatoes on stage, so I skipped that part of happiness.

One sunburn later (whoops – but, the fact that I need to break out the sunscreen does make me happy), I set off on my 40k bike ride, finished it with the ability to walk (also makes me happy), and headed home for a warm shower, dinner, and the joy of getting wrapped up in the smiles of my beautiful children.

This ‘detour’ my life has taken does have some pretty views along the way.

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So…it has come to this !

 Sunburns and alternative park personalities were not enough to stop me having a 10 out of 10 day…my first! Now if only I’d thought to write that recipe down…

Rating: Picnic day (10 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 5 out of 5 (love busy days off)
  • Twitch – proud to own one
  • Happy hour – 5 out of 5 (was hoping to share the picnic with someone, but thoroughly enjoyed my alone time)

What the heck does all that mean, you ask? Read Itchy Feet Explained.

Tomorrow: Exercise differently.  Use the calendar to view my happiness tasks for each day along with a brief description of the task and why I chose it.