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Day 92 vs 109- Happiness is … a cherry on top


In order to combat the staggering out-of-dateness of my blog, I shall be writing two happiness tasks per blog. My present day task along side the next task I should be writing about. Eventually I’ll be up-to-date 🙂



Celebrate Day 92 – “Find occasions to celebrate your happiness. There is more to celebrate than anniversaries and birthdays.” ~ unknown

Just because someone cared

Saw this in a random parking lot… obviously done just because someone cared

A dressing gown, a birch bark scented candle, a pair of riding socks, pajamas, candy… these are some of the ‘just because’ gifts I have received.

Books, magnets, jewellery, maraschino cherries, an anonymous letter… these are some of the ‘just because’ gifts I have given.

‘Just because’ gifts are given to anyone for no particular reason on no particular day.

I give them when the mood strikes or when I have found something so perfect for someone that it cannot wait for a special occasion to be given.

Try it… just because.


Be Alone Day 109 – “It’s better to be unhappy alone than unhappy with someone – so far.” ~
Marilyn Monroe 

Taken at a triathlon where I competed as a team instead of alone

Taken at a triathlon where I competed as a team instead of alone

I sometimes purposely look the other way or close my eyes because I don’t want to know. When happiness perches precariously on a ledge, even the breeze of  feather floating past can upset the balance.

I change the channel when the ads for impoverished children come on. I look straight ahead when walking past the homeless.

Memories of loved ones lost or family and friends far away can make Christmas less than the postcard picture many of us experience it as. This year I could not look away; I was the feather floating past.

This was not my year to have my children at Christmas. I did not travel to visit family. I spent Christmas alone.

I had been dreading it for weeks but during the impending days I made a choice… a choice to be happy. I believe it is the first time in my life I have successfully achieved this goal of choosing happiness despite the circumstances.

I was lucky – I had people to care that left me a stocking to open Christmas morning. I had calls to wish me Merry Christmas and offers of places to go. I chose x-country skiing through some memories that were hard to face. I planned a visit to the monastery in case I needed a refuge of peace but couldn’t make it in without a 4×4, so I went home and sorted through clothing to donate to the women’s shelter and ate a butter tart given to me by a neighbour I’ve only just met.

It was not an easy day, yet I truly felt grateful. My perception of Christmas changed this year and I’m a happier person for experiencing the loneliness.


So…it has come to this !

There was an ulterior motive to giving the maraschino cherries that never bore fruit…

Rating:  Celebrate Day (7 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 3 out of 5
  • Twitch – YES!
  • Happy hour –  4 out of 5

Rating:  Be Alone Day (7 out of 10)

  • Itchy feet – 3 out of 5 (Can’t say I was totally excited about this)
  • Twitch – if a twitch falls in the forest…
  • Happy hour –  4 out of 5 (Survived way better than I’d imagined)

What the heck does all that mean, you ask? Read Itchy Feet Explained.

Tomorrow: Redo & Blackout.  Use the calendar to view my happiness tasks for each day along with a brief description of the task and why I chose it.